Listen to the stories you tell yourself and others. We all tell stories. We repeat stories we’ve heard and told all of our lives. Some may serve our higher purpose but most don’t.
Do you hear yourself repeating words you heard your parents or other “authority figures” say? For example,
You heard, “Little Johnny was always a slow learner.”
and now you say, “I’ve always been a slow learner.”
You heard, “We’re not sure Susie will ever find a good man.”
and now you say, “I’m not sure I’ll ever find a good man.”
You heard, “He’s always sick. He picks up whatever’s going around.”
and now you say, “I’m always sick. I pick up whatever’s going around.”
You heard, “He’ll never amount to much. He can’t hold a job.”
and now you say, “I can’t seem to hold a job no matter what I do.”
You may not even be repeating these out loud. Perhaps they just play like a broken record (repeating loop) in your mind. Who decided these stories were true? Who decides if they’re still true?
We tell stories that change depending on our mood, who we’re telling, and why we’re telling the story.
Have you ever noticed how you tell your mother and your best friend different stories about the same event. Even when you’re being completely honest, different details are emphasized. We do this same thing when we tell ourselves stories about our life. When our motivation is to justify our behavior, different details are emphasized than when we’re bragging about an accomplishment. It’s all just stories.
Or how about how people share their pain and suffering stories and try to out-misery each other. How many times have you told the story about how you got that scar?
How do your stories serve you? That’s why you tell them.
Have you ever noticed how two or more people can share the same event in history and they all have a different memory of that event (i.e. your family). I find it interesting to reminisce with my brothers, for example, and hear how we each remember certain events completely differently. We all have different perspectives, viewpoints and belief filters that we view life through. Keep this in mind when reading about “history.”
We remember the past differently depending on our motives in the present. We then make up stories about the future based on the past as we see it in that moment.
Think about it…the future is ONLY a story we’ve made up. We all have a story about the future and how we believe or hope it will be. But the future can and does change in every moment, sometimes drastically.
We make it all up in the present. If we make it all up anyway, why not make up (or create) what we prefer and live as if it were true. This is a very simple and yet profound process of creating what we want in life.
What stories are you telling? Listening to the stories we tell on a daily basis (and it’s all stories) can show us what beliefs we are empowering with our attention. By examining these, you can easily predict how your life will unfold.
Stories don’t have to be just thoughts or spoken words either. Stories are who we become and what we do repeatedly.
Life can become a repeating story when we don’t live it deliberately. We get comfortable in the story, the way it’s always been, and continue without questioning if it currently serves our highest evolution.
Don’t let your current or past story define you if that’s not who you choose to be now. One thing a lot of very successful people have in common is the hard luck stories of their past. When they realized they could change their story, they did.
Your story is not predetermined or chiseled in stone. You can decide what story you want to live and tell.
What will your legacy be?
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